Friday, September 18, 2009

Happy Friday

The weekend is nearly in site. THANK GAWD.


adonis flores

Adonis Flores, Visionary, 2003, digital photograph



This has been a really tough week for me. My [former] man is moving out today. We have been talking a lot and expressing many regrets, and we finally figured that we would try being apart for a couple of months. That will give us time to think and decide if we want to try again to make it work. We are both so torn up, and we hate to throw away 4 years of some pretty good times, and it is so tough. And I am sorry to be such a Debbie Downer lately and to keep bringing it up. For some reason it helps to write about it, and your comments always help me, too. So thank you for that!!!!! I am not sure what will happen with us, but I guess I'll just have to think and wait and see where we stand in a couple of months, and he will do the same.

As far as the weekend goes, I kind of want to be a hermit and just laze around at home, but maybe it would be better to make plans to GO GO GO and keep myself occupied. Humph. I don't know. My mind is just mush lately. So......my plans are undetermined at this point, and that is ok.

Enough about me! What are YOUR plans for the weekend?



40 comments:

♥Aubrey said...

Hey...you got the rolls...lets go tee-pee lady :)-
Uhhh...what a day...i'm sorry hun. Like your tiger up there, you've got to be patient and wait. Within the next month or so, you'll be able to make your decision and i'm sure what's best will happen. Sometimes you need to lose what you've got in order to appreciate it. Positive vibes i'm sending your way...take them in.

♥Aubrey said...

Ok...OK...as you could read i obviously don't know a cheetah from a tiger. Oopsie-daisies!!!

LENORENEVERMORE said...

Errr...sometimes relationship can be more difficult than brain surgery... I'm not an expert, but time would tell I guess~ Peace darling!

Andhari said...

I'm sorry for what happened hun, I'm sure things will look up and maybe there's a lesson in this for everyone. I'm sure you'll be okay and you just need time, you should go out with your friends this weekend. It helps.:)

Diana said...

Four years is tough, but I hope you both decide what's best for you, and remember that you have your friends here, seriously. You always cheer us up, so we want to cheer you up, somehow.

Being Brazen said...

Sometimes taking a step back to re-evaluate the situtaion can be good. I'm sure its not easy though...*hugs*

Hope your weekend is good. Enjoy relaxing and spending time with yourself :)

Red Boots said...

Sometimes being apart gives you amazing perspective about what you want. I hope things work out in whatever way is best for you.

Remember that there's no shame staying in and being by yourself then do. Sometimes you need that time to get your head together.

x

ASSHOLE BOYFRIEND said...

Occupy your time with working on your monster truck "The Droll Driller" or that perpetual motion machine your always talkin about.

Seriously, It breaks my heart seeing the pain your going through with this breakup. I always want a smile on your face, and I'll always try to put one there.

Gabby said...

That is so rough. I just want happiness for you, lady, and it sounds like you're taking the steps to get there. :)

I am off to Vegas this weekend. A-freaking-men.

Brooke said...

If it helps, keep writing about it! In certain situations, just putting everything/some things out there helps a lot. Relationships are just tough...

I hope you get some rest AND stay occupied :) Not sure if that is even possible though!

Tom Tuttle from Tacoma said...

i think it's commendable that he's actually considering doing that... but whatever i say is immaterial. if we can see the future like He can, then i wonder how being human would be like. it's really my hope, from my heart you'll find the treasure through this trial.

Lee the Hot Flash Queen said...

Treat yourself. Sleep late. Watch some movies. Eat a bunch of junk and don't get dressed. That's my ultimate weekend. I will be praying this weekend...ugghhhh

thereddeer said...

Man that is tough - I hope you can bother clear your heads while you are separated. I have no idea what the circumstances are, but I hope whatever happens that you will be okay.

As for my weekend plans - baking, grocery shopping, baking and lounging around in my pyjamas - hell yes!

Raina said...

My weekend plans - scrubbing the new house and sending good thoughts your way.

Brown Girl said...

Maybe the time apart will help you both. Whatever happens we are here for you...I am. Duh, me me me. ;) No weekend plans for me...just driving in shitty Dallas traffic to moms house. Boo on her for taking a vacation..haha. Gawd, I'm an asshole.

Happy Weekend Sweetheart!!

ticklishfromadistance said...

A painful weekend for you, I am sure, but maybe it would be best to not be there while he is getting his things. Just agony. Time WILL tell. And it will give you some space to thing while not going through it day in, day out. You know the saying time heals all wounds? My grandma used to say time wounds all heels!! Hahahaha! I doubt this guy is a stinker, after the way you feel him, but hope that made you laugh. AND, do not berate yourself for feeling crappy. It is OK and normal. Just take the small victories from each day, sweet, and you will start to think clearly. xoxoxoxox

Sher said...

Hang in there, things happen for a reason. It may take time to get around the corner ahead, but it will get better.

Go ahead, take the time to be hurt, sad, angry, pissed. You're entitled to it. Only then will you be able to take a deep breath and move on.
(hugs)

diane said...

Four years is a long time. Any time is.
Someone very close to me is probably going to separate/divorce after 18 years. It's tough no matter which way you slice it.

I've been sick all week, so no big week-end plans here. I'm still undecided about going into work today.

If you're like me, and throw away unflattering photos of yourself,
And friends comments are like a reflection of who we are,
Then you should delete my comment,
because it's pathetic. and also depressing. which is the last thing you need right now. just delete it. go ahead. do it.

Sam said...

A break sounds like a fine idea - it will sort out the wood from the chaff and help you clear your mind. Still sending you good, healing, gentle vibes from down here in Sydney town because I guess it's still in the fasten your seatbelts phase...as for me - I'll be doing a bit of the hermitage too and hopefully I'll accidentally wander outside on Sunday for a walk.

bananas. said...

debbie downer? chahh right lady! you've actually been anything but. debbie downers do not make me laugh my ass off like you, just sayin...

i think the break thing sounds like a fine idea. i'm no expert in relationships but if it's meant to be, it will happen. take this time to spoil yourself. indulge yourself in the good things in life...like alcohol and Rx drugs. haha! kidding...well kinda.

no weekend plans for me which i'm looking forward to. tired of plans, ya know?

have a wonderful, fabulous, terrfic weekend! xoxo.

Char said...

it's tough honey - keep your spirits up as much as you can. read some empowerment books and go "hellz yeah" to the mirror a lot.

me - haven't made solid plans yet.

the lock shot is in the etsy shop when you feel like it - it's 8x12 but if you want something different let me know and we can work it out.

TERI REES WANG said...

Keep your "dance card" filled.
Every moment of your time should be scheduled out, even if 'scrubbing the kitchen floor' and 'falling into a sobbing mess on fresh kitchen floor' are on that list of to-do's.

Bless that guy right out the door. Clean out, re-arrange, wash down, scrub down, wipe down every surface, until your place looks sparkling new...and just for You.

And then: 30 dates in 30 days!

You are going to a be busy bee.

TERI REES WANG said...

Was I not clear..?

Kick that guy to the curb, in the most loving and charming way.

P.S. I am the Saboteur here to slice off your head, so that you may grow a new and improved one.
Be well. Be sane.

Kellie said...

We are finally having a low key weekend! Nothing in the cards for tonight, a 2 year olds bday party tomorrow and then the hubs is racing tomorrow night. Sunday we will RELAX.

Keep your chin up hun! I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and that even though at the time it may feel awful, usually in the end it all works out for the best.

Happy Friday!

Diane said...

i'm right there with ya sister! we've been apart now for like a year now and everything is different. we're not back together at this point, but we are much better friends to each other than we were when we were together. time sucks but i guess is necessary.

i think you should keep things as balanced as you can - go have some fun, then stay in on sunday and chill. that's what i'd do. :)

although, i do LOVE teri rees wang's suggestion too lol!

p.s. you have NOT been a debbie downer lately at all! yer awesome!

Gary Heller said...

Its an uncommonly good thing that the two of you can remain reasonable and cordial enough to agree to step away and look at things in a fresh light. Stepping back and reevalutaing your situation together is a great step, although tough.
I wish you all the best, and hoping you have a great weekend.

Summer @ B is for Brown said...

i cannot even imagine how hard this is for you. i want to say really nice things that lift you up but i know sometimes that makes it worse. so...here goes! YOU SMELL LIKE COTTON CANDY FARTS! HEE HEE!

Elizabeth Marie said...

Sending you hugs and obsessions...I'm glad you and he are still talking and working, you never know what may happen-but I am only concerned for you. I suck at le relationships but I am a good friend, and you know I'm always here for youuuuuuuu.

Going out or staying in-you need alky. Ok? Just sayin.

Hang in there and we are always here for you!

Clorivak said...

Time apart is a good thing...you can figure yourself out without him being the picture for awhile. But don't think too hard..you'll think yourself into a funk unless they are...hey...where's FABIO?????

You rock Droll and do WHATEVER your precious self desires this weekend.

Hanako66 said...

I'm so sorry, I can't imagine how hard this must be for you as even my most serious breakups have not been of the moving out variety.

You are a gem and I hope that you two can work it out, but if not...you'll find your hilarious, handsome, vegetable eating match:)

Iva said...

you are anything but a Debbie Downer. I am sorry this has been a rough week. You are such a great person, and I wish I could help you, somehow. I am glad you are both taking some time to think things through, and I hope you two can make it work. Keep writing, keep doing everything and anything that helps you. You are a great writer :)I sometimes like undetermined weekend plans, you never know what will come up, could be something great and loads of fun, even if its just relaxing time. I am so sorry, about all of this, 4 years is a long time. Everything, will always be ok. I'm thinking of you.

No, huge weekend plans here!

Jessica said...

Squishy hugs to you and I'd send you Nut Clusters to make you smile but if I asked for your address I'd look all stalkerish.
You know you'd love my nuts :)

My plans - work. Meh at least I'm employed.

anotherfishinthesea said...

I like the combo of lazy and busy, a day of each makes you appreciate the other more...
i am throwing a bridal shower for a friend this weekend but should be stressful, but hopefully will be super fun...
and it sounds like you are coping as well as could be expected, hope things get sunnier for you sooon! (and don't go on any dates with those losers above - except maybe the one who gave his mom a shoutout. cause thats hot.)

blueviolet said...

Geez, I'm sorry that you're going through a split right now. This will do exactly what you're hoping it will though. You'll know whether it's right or not.

Hang in there! :)

K.Line said...

You are doing a great job of moving forward under difficult circumstances. I'm giving you my positive vibes.

We're going to an apple farm an hour away tomorrow - with a kid who tends to get insanely car sick. But that's not going to happen this time. the weather is going to be gorgeous and we're going to have a terrific time. Full stop.

The Cottage Cheese said...

You are not being Debbie Downer! What you are going through is so difficult, and I think you're doing an amazing job of keeping it together. Sometimes time apart from the one you love is the true test whether you want to be together. It really helps one gain perspective. If you decide to lounge around the house and be lazy this weekend - that's ok! Of course, you don't still need to be staying in a few weeks from now, but it's ok to grieve even just the possibility of the end of a relationship. Plus, you need a little "you" time. Take care sweetie, and whatever you decide to do this weekend, enjoy it!

alissa said...

i hope everything goes well this weekend. i think you should do a little of each, relax and lounge - but make plans with friends at night!

Phoenix said...

Hey girl,

You don't ever have to apologize for being down. People read your blog not because you're all bright and chipper all the time, but because you never try to be someone you're not.

You've got us in your corner, any day of the week.

K @ Blog Goggles said...

Hey, you are not being a debbie downer, and even if you are, who cares. That's what blogs are for and if people don't want to read it, then they can just look at pretty pictures of celebrity schlongs. Hope everything went ok.

Kim said...

I love when you write personal posts!! It always helps me to write things out too. I hope you had a good weekend.