Wednesday, February 2, 2011

The Punisher Gene

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I have a dominant punisher gene. Seriously. If somebody wrongs me or fucks things up for me, my punisher gene takes over. It is VERY HARD for me to curb this impulse. VERY HARD. I want to EDUCATE the fool that wronged me, and take him or her DOWN.

Perhaps I should give an example? Hmm. There are so many to choose from! LOL.

Years and years ago I worked for a psychopath at a carburetor shop -- I was sixteen years old. My boss had anger issues, and was known to kick and throw things in a blind rage. Well, one day he let loose on me and berated me in front of customers. It was horrendous. I was in a silent and red rage while it happened. I went home after work that night and FUMED. ALL NIGHT LONG. I was furious. Absolutely livid.  Well the next day I went back to work [shocker] and the boss apologized to me. He said he was very sorry. And I looked at him and said, "WELL SORRY ISN'T GOOD ENOUGH." He blinked.  And then he got an earful.  Bah!  The nerve on me. Needless to say,  I stand by that statement, and would most likely say the same thing today if I was in a similar situation. 

Believe it or not, we patched things up and I worked for him for years. But he never pulled that stunt on me again! NEVER!

Pretty sure I am not the only one with a punisher gene. Pretttty pretty sure. I think I learned/inherited this trait from my parents.  And/or from Clint Eastwood movies.

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30 comments:

Ren- Lady Of The Arts said...

I had a boss exactly like that about a year ago- He would yell and throw thing etc. He once lost it on me and I basically waited it out a couple of months and then quit when it would hurt him the most- Lucky for me no once expects me to pay any bills so I can put my bitch on like that.

blueviolet said...

If you hadn't gone off on him, chances are that he would have done that to you again some other time. Good for you!

the eternal list said...

i feel ya, i have those genes aplenty, i must have inherited them in spades from somewhere. i also have that cool skull pic, it's situated right next to my ceiling mirror...

Cheryl Ann said...

bahahahaha! the Punisher Gene?? i love it. also, i have it. why can't i just be happy with an "i'm sorry for acting like a dick?" nooo....i have to tell you WHY i thought you were acting like a dick and WHY it's not ok for you to act like a dick to me. after you've apologized. i need to reign that in.

Shelley said...

I think that response was perfect. People need to know that what they do can affect other people.

I have it too. It visits when someone drives really bad (I live in Orange County so this is an everyday thing) or washes their dirty ass car next to mine... spraying mud evrywhere. I yelled at that lady from across our parking lot. I also can not stand being talked down to. Don't push me... I bite ;)

Kimbirdy said...

he probably had never had anyone give him an earful like that, let alone from a 16 year old employee. that's awesome! usually people are afraid of someone with anger issues like that. he was probably in the habit of just apologizing later and having people accept it. a lot of people are too afraid to set proper boundaries like you did. i think our culture teaches us from a young age to be "proper" which ends up putting people in abusive relationships without any courage or education that they deserve better. so i'd say you have a much healthier way of taking care of yourself and i applaud you for that.

Felicia said...

I think you know I have that gene too but I'm also confrontational so I would never wait until the next day to say something. Fur would fly immediately!!

Lorena said...

Dude i think we are related.
I have never gotten it into my work area but...
I have been known to, let's not use the word "vandalize" but - I put glue all over a couple of cars' windows' - including a convertible's soft top. They were people who were parked on the sidewalk in front of my building. I was pissed.
Once I chased a taxi driver for cutting me off and then blocked him from going anywhere as I shouted all the taxi driver insults I could remember. Then I freaked and left.
Yeah, I don't do that anymore. Or at least not lately.

Dancing Branflake said...

I have that gene! But I don't have the courage to follow up on it. I am such a non confrontational person. Unless you mess with my husband. Then the shebear comes out.

Vivienne said...

I have that tendency as well. Really, I am trying to help these people who apparently don't realize they are stupid, mean and/or boorish. I want to help. (If by help you mean verbal eviscerate them...)

SabinePsynopsis said...

Oh yes, now we're talking. I'm definitely with the old testament... and I can wait - but if someone wrongs me revenge is a must. I really shouldn't say these things in public...

Jo said...

Oh, how I know that red rage you mentioned. I think it's my blood pressure rising when I'm angry. :)

I say good for you. People should not get away with bad behavior, especially if it's a pattern! Sometimes it's okay not to just say, "That's okay!"

PorkStar said...

I totally understand you. I've been there myself, and I do the heated argument in my head. But when it comes to doing it in real life, I have fumed silently so much that I'm calmed down enough to actually not give them an earful.

Haute World said...

Hahaha... I'm the same. Actually, I had a very similar experience with a boss (and he made the mistake of annoying on an empty stomach... fatal). I do think bosses have a little respect if you stand up like that, because like you, he never bothered me again and we got along great.

Missy said...

I have the "doormat" and "kick me again" gene...

Isabel said...

i would say the punisher gene is a good trait :)


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Kitty Stampede said...

I am a redhead, so always blame it on that. So is my sister and I call her the "Red Hulk", she's got it waaay worse than me. She can get violent. Where I just fume for awhile about it, and then I just blow up after awhile, and DAMN it feels good. I TELL IT LIKE IT IS, when I am in that mode. I find before I would just let it simmer and then explode, but I find lately I just try not to put myself through all that time, and confront it straight away.

I had a boss that used to chuck shit too...his face would go all red and he would start chucking bottles and dishes and stuff. what a freaking physcho.

DON'T FORGET THE 'Y' said...

Ok I'm really starting to be convinced that we were separated at birth. My man always has to reign me in when I unleash MY punisher gene. I have this crazy feeling that it's my responsibility to educate people on their stupidity, like I can't just let it slide. I don't have anger issues, but when someone is acting a fool it's almost like I can't NOT put them in check.

Caitlin said...

This is excellent. I've never really heard this referred to as the punisher gene, but so, so apt.

pearls said...

ooooh the punisher gene has gotten me IN and OUT of a lot of trouble. i too have a hard time with the self control part.... you crack me up, nice to know we are all alike :)

Char said...

i don't have the gene but i could see how watching clint on repeat could give us that...my dad would always have those things on.

alissa said...

i got the silent punisher gene. i get really angry and think of really good things to say to tell people exactly what i think...
but i rarely say them:)

Kathryn said...

LOL on the "Punisher" gene. You did the guy a huge favor by calling him on his unprofessional and inappropriate behavior. Some people have not idea how they come across or how wrong their behavior is until they get that sort of feedback and it puts them on notice that you will not put up with it in the future.

Chic 'n Cheap Living said...

I have been known to demand justice as well. I wouldn't expect anyone to reprimand you unjustly and not ignite the punisher gene.

Farah said...

Oh God! I wish I had that gene! I had this boss who would berate me in and out of the office (cellphones are evil!). and one fine day I just quit my job because I couldn't take it anymore. It severely affected my self-confidence. :(

Maybe I need to watch more Clint Eastwood movies (?)

Jessica said...

Totally. Lay the smack down on em.

Stephanie said...

I have the Doormat gene :(

十十f十 said...

it also sounds like you have a forgiver gene too. very rare, that. it's wonderful that the guy apologised.

Sarcastic Bastard said...

My father always said that I was "not one to suffer in silence." You too, eh?

Love you!

vint junky said...

Hahahaha!
Well actually i'm all hearts and fairies...KIDDING
I've held grudges against kids that gave me chinese burns for 20 years. I will avenge someday. I'm still waiting