Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Travel Companion

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I am going on a trip with a friend in a few days. I am nervous to death. We have been friends for years and years, but TRAVELING with a friend is waaaaaaay different than just hanging out with a friend every now and again.

I LOVE to go see new places, but I am a nervous traveler in general (I hate flying, and worrying about what to bring, and worrying about how to get places, and worrying about what to talk about, and worrying about my kitties while I am away, and fretting about how my stomach is going to react to days of restaurant food, and stressing about when/where I am going to go to the bathroom, and worrying that I will DIE on this trip and my parents will find all sorts of upsetting things when they finally get a chance to rifle through my apartment, etc.). GAH!

This friend has invited me to join her on MANY trips (kind of felt like I had go on this trip with her or ELSE), so I am finally biting the bullet and joining her on this mini vacation. This friend knows I am prone to wandering off on my own.  She knows I am moody.  She knows I can be fun and mellow yellow, but she also knows that I can also be a FIREBALL and hell on wheels.  She knows me pretty well.  

The logical part of my brain thinks everything will be fine.  I am sure we'll have stuff to talk about, we'll have plenty of new and interesting places to visit, we'll meet new people, we'll eat/drink and be merry, we'll be able to do things on our own if we want to, and we'll be able to be QUIET and just chill, etc. 

The predominant nervous part of me worries that we will argue, or that she will drink excessively (I can't stop visualizing Nicolas Cage in Leaving Las Vegas when I worry about this), or that she will be super slutty and hook up with random dudes so that I end up spending my nights in the hallway of our hotel. GAH!

I will have fun. I know I will. But I also know that I am going to continue to stress about all of this, and that I will be SO relieved if/when things go well. FINGERS CROSSED!


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33 comments:

bananas. said...

you are so funny! i think many people worry about these things but aren't so open about it. i know i do...

like when i'm asked to go to dinner with a friend to "catch up." i think ugh what the hell are we are going to talk about for an hour or more?! their brats? their horrible relationship? the fact that their fiance is still married? actually that one's kinda good. haha.

anyway, it'll be fine. new places are always an excuse to venture off if need be.

Lara said...

Man are we ever cut from the same cloth and yes! @bananas! I worry about just getting drinks with a friend too!

You'll have a great time! Save up your alone time escapes for when/if any shit hits the fan.

Take lots of pics!

Marian said...

Hey...uhhh...you want to go on a trip together...you sound like my kind of travel companion:)

PS- I think some of the same things before a trip...I hate HATE flying (probably cause I have to give up control), and I always get nervous about getting around places/getting lost and language barriers give me ulcers...you don't speaka my language...BALLSSSSS!!!

But deep breathes...it'll be a blast...and I'm sure you'll have stories to share:)

this free bird said...

I think we may have been separated at birth. If the wheels fly off the bus DM me and I'll come get you.

xo,
C

TERI REES WANG said...

What are you 16?!... get over it.
Expect the best... experience the best.
Shed that Nervous Nelly-needy-but-leave me alone-nasty/nerdy-girl... attitude... and just be you.
Enjoy the ride. We're all here rooting for you.

blueviolet said...

You certainly are a silly worrywart. You'll be fine, and you're going to have a fantastic time!

Morgan said...

Totally understand the nervousness but you'll have a blast! I travel with friends all the time and I get nervous upfront but end up having a great time. Blog about it when you get back!

Annabelle said...

You'll be great.

Have a blast!

Haute World said...

I'm sure you'll be fine, though I have to tell you, I had a horrible experience traveling with a high school friend. The first trip with her was fine, but the second was a nightmare, because basically she did behave like a slut and brought back random guys to our rented apartment. That was the last time I ever traveled with anyone who wasn't my partner.

Having said that, I was thinking of going on a short weekend trip with another friend who is completely different. If your friend is ok in general, things should be fine!

Caroline said...

LOL...you'll be fine. Damn...you crack me up though!!! Most of all...have fun!!!

Dancing Branflake said...

Haha! It soooo true! I love my friends, but there's only a few who I would actually travel with. Only because getting outside of our comfort zone freaks me out.

Katie said...

I hope YOU have a good time and not just your friend. You need to call a girl out when she's not being a good friend. Try to take some time out for yourself so you don't go crazy.

P.s. I love Leaving Las Vegas!

Mr. Pickles said...

Here's some unsolicited advice from Mr. Pickles for after your trip:

http://askmrpickles.blogspot.com/2011/06/vacations-from-hell-and-how-to-avoid.html

Trixie said...

Ha! That bathroom thing and worrying about what your parents will find made me laugh! I'm sure everything will be fine and have a great time!!!

liz said...

um i wrote a reallllly long comment and its gone ahhh. Anyway, I'll take it as the universe telling me to keep it short and sweet: enjoy, you'll have a good time anyway, and try not to get annoyed over the little things (I always do that)

Vivienne @ the V Spot said...

Oh, you're funny! It's going to be fine. And if it doesn't go all that well, I am sure you'll get a little blog material out of it. Have a good time. (Cuz' I think you're gonna...)

besswess said...

It is a mini vacation. Surely you can bite your tongue for a few days and prevent a fight. The worst that can happen is that you have a sub par time and you won't travel with her again. Just don't make her mad. She might sell you and you will become human traffic. :(

Lorena said...

Dear Lord, if i were your friend and read this post I would run the opposite direction.
You have made me think of fears I did not know I had !

Now, on the bright side I have traveled with friends.
What usually upsets me is having to wait for them and be late.
Also, hate the fact that they can't eat prepared food from the supermarket and want to dine $$$ all nights.
Also they want to rent cars when I rather go on a bus and spend the money on stuff.
Yeah I am pretty much a cheap traveler...

Jen said...

Travel with a friend!!! I'm so jealous!! All of your anxiety will chill once you get started. And if it creeps up again? Do some shots. Have a GREAT TIME Honey-Pie!!!

TK Kerouac said...

ha, too funny
I've always travelled with a significant other but this trip coming up end of June I'll be in South Beach with my daughter(raymitheminx) and teacher girlfriend.
Yes, all hell can and maybe will happen(and you'll see the photos) but hey
You only live once. When opportunity knocks, take it.
Who cares if you are moody. When you want to be quiet, just tell her and don't force it.
Remember, its not the things we do we regret, its the things we didn't do.
Life is an adventure
Have fun on your trip Thelma and Louise

Jill said...

You're going to have a blast! I just know it...even if super slutty random drunkenness occurs!

Felicia said...

HAHAHAHAHAHA! Oh no! Where are you going? I'm sure it'll be fun as long as you don't let anything get in the way of that. For me, being in vacation mode is completely different from real life mode so I tend to be a little more laid back about things. I do have a lot of the same fears as you though. Have fun, wish I were coming!!

Kitty Stampede said...

HAHAHAA...God, I love you. We are so similar with a lot of things, it's insane.

That is so funny what you said about the dying thing and your parents finding stuff in your apartment. LOLOL...I totally have those thoughts too. like insane.

I feel like that about hanging with certain friends too. you gotta have someone where you can be comfortable with not saying a word..and that seems to be a rare thing.

I have a feeling you will have a great time. just don't worry. or at least try not to. and also your kitties will be fine!!

Have Fun!!! Can't wait to see pics!

georgia~gigi said...

Oh Drollgirl, you make me laugh!!!
I hope you have a blast!
Can't wait to hear all about it!
xo
gi gi

Diana said...

have fun!! and bring some immodium AD with you, you never know!!

mermaid gallery said...

you sound like you really need a holiday! You can't have fun if you worry about everything....get some ativan for the flying (best tip ever!), relax, and let it all go...cocktails help!

十十f十 said...

are you a worry wart for other matters? i can really feel your stress already! i understand what you're saying. i got a bit hung up over what people said during my recent trip. it's an old problem, so maybe it's more of a "it's me, not you" thing. i travelled with an old friend, it was our 3rd overseas holiday together. we've come a long way. it's indeed not easy, even after having gone through a number of 'break-ups', haha. other than praying for journey mercy, it's the next top request i committed to the lord.

Ace said...

I tend to get constipated when travelling. I hate it when I miss my moment. The sign of a true friend male or female is one that you can poop around. I was very sad for my mom when she told me recently that she never pooped around her x-husband. Now the X part makes sense. I digress. Have a terrific adventure!

Kristine said...

Oh my god!!! I hear you on all of it! I love my friends dearly but I am terrified of traveling with any of them.I almost passed up a FREE beach vacation with a friend last winter(she won a trip for two)because I had all the same fears. I bit the bullet and it was great but I would still dread traveling with a friend in the future. Good luck and have a great time in spite of the worries!

SabinePsynopsis said...

YOU WILL HAVE FUN! and the only way to realise this is to try it out... Things always look so much more difficult and complicated before you're actually experience them (that's the little pep talk I give myself every day :)

Down and Out Chic said...

i don't think your worries are that out of the ordinary. i know i wouldn't just travel with anyone but she sounds like she knows and loves you and, more importantly, wants to spend time with you. i think you're going to have a blast!

kimbirdy said...

oh i know, i'm such an anxious traveler. i tend to way over think and catastrophize everything. what if this, what if that - always worst case scenarios. for me it's helpful to think, "okay, what if the worst case scenario happens, what will i do? what will be my backup plan or what will i reward myself with after surviving an awful situation?" then i go through all of my life experiences and ask myself "how many times have the worst case scenarios actually happened? how many times did i freak out and then everything turned out just fine?" i still FEEL freaked out, but at least my brain begins to believe that things will be alright. i will keep my fingers crossed for you though. and i hope you have an amazing time and your kitties will all be safe at home.

SweetBonita said...

oh drollgirl... you are so like me, it is uncanny. you're like my white, westcoast double.