The other day my boss stopped by my desk, looked at me and said, "How do I tell so-and-so (his long-time female friend, and a VERY good client) that she has body odor? She needs to know. It is awful."
I said, "You don't. She is a friend. She is a client. She is a very successful doctor. She is married with children, and if her man and her family aren't concerned with her body odor, you should leave it alone. Butt out."
We went round and round on this issue, but my boss is determined to find a way to tell her. THE HORROR.
I have a reason for not wanting to get involved in this type of situation. Years ago I was elected to inform a co-worker that she needed to shower more frequently. IT WAS A HORRENDOUS EXPERIENCE. I tried to be nice. I tried to be tactful. I tried my best. But the message did not go over well, and the woman (from another country/culture) was very offended and very embarrassed. And I just wanted to crawl under
her armpit and die a rock and hide when I saw how much it upset her. ACK!
I guess I
smell see both sides of this, but I would NOT relish being the messenger in this type of situation. Shudder.