Friday, February 3, 2012

Separate Beds

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Thoughts on couples that sleep in separate beds?

I have always had trouble sharing a bed. I usually end up migrating to the couch to sleep on my own at some point. I know that doesn't send a great message, but it is just hard for me to RELAX and actually SLEEP when sharing a bed.

Manfriend and I have an awesome weekend getaway planned, and I am super excited for everything except trying to sleep in the same bed at night. But I am going to try. I am going to try real hard. I am also going to bring extra blankets so I can hit the couch or the floor if need be. :]


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27 comments:

Lorena said...

I've heard of it... and i guess it's a matter of choice and being comfortable.
I say you request for king bed -- for more space - and have a couple of drinks before going to sleep so the odds of getting up and migrating elsewhere in the middle of the night are less probable.

Felicia said...

I'm the exact same way. I cannot fall asleep if someone else is touching me. It's smothering! But I also can't sleep on couches so if anyone is getting kicked out of bed it's the other person. HAHA! Have fun on your trip!!

heather said...

that's so interesting! i love sharing a bed (with my husband)! but now we are cosleeping with the baby (which i realize sounds completely offputting to most people but i have really learned to cherish it). So sometimes hubs falls asleep on the couch and stays there, and while i miss him i also secretly like it. sshhh. :)

K.Line said...

I've been married for 12 years (with my husband for 16) and we've slept on separate floors for most of that time! I cannot stand being touched or the sound of someone breathing. My kid is also not allowed to sleep in bed with me - if you breathe, chances are it's not going to work :-) Note: I sleep in a king sized bed, alone. I would not want it any other way.

PS: This in no way impinges on having sex. Who has sex in a bed anyway?

Diana said...

i think of i love lucy, ha!!

we have a cal king bed. i love sharing a bed with my husband but i also love waking up to him being gone to work a bit early and i get the bed to myself!

Trissta said...

Oooh! Sounds like fun! I agree that I have a problem sharing a bed most of the time. If I'm extremely tired or know the person very very well, then it's not so much of a problem. I grew up in a large family, so we always had to share beds, however, I do sleep much much better when I have my own space and own room. Thus, I have a large, fluffy queen sized bed, when I should probably have something close to a single. I'm all about luxurious sleep time. :) And if someone tries to infringe on that? they're close to dead meat.

Also, I'm not much of a cuddler. I have to be in a very specific emotional mood for such a thing to happen. I once got yelled at for 'turning my back' to my manfriend because he thought I was being all emotional and pulling away from him. That might have been a little of it, but honestly, that's just how I roll. lol. Have always been the very independent creature.

Much Love,
Trissta

Claire Kiefer said...

I used to be THE WORST about this. Literally could not sleep with someone else period. Although I've gotten a lot better, I still end up on the couch at least 50% of the time cause I'm a wretched insomniac and I can't turn my light on and read with Matt in the bed. He calls me "the thrasher" because I'm such a wild, energetic, kicky sleeping companion. haha. Although I like going to bed with him at night, sometimes when I wake up in the middle of the night and can't sleep, I get so irritable with thoughts like: UGH YOU ARE SNORING and UGH YOU ARE IN THE MIDDLE OF THE BED and stuff like that.

Still, I wouldn't want separate beds. :)

Dancing Branflake said...

Mr. Branflake and I JUST were joking about how we need separate beds. As in, we need two King beds for each of us because we are the greedy with the covers. But we could never do it- after all these years of sharing a full there's no way of separating us now.

Aline said...

i used to be exactly like you, but for some reason, i'm totally able to sleep (soundly) with my bf.. even when it has been a twin and even a COUCH in the past!! maybe he's just a really still sleeper? plus, he's not a snorer.

Morgan said...

Personally, I think that would affect G's and my relationship. Maybe we spend too much time in bed?! Ha! Seriously though - every couple is different. Just make sure your beau is on the same page. :)

Kass said...

"...and let there be separateness in your relationship." - LOTS OF SEPARATENESS!

SabinePsynopsis said...

There's so much joy in kicking your snoring partner - which is quite difficult when you're sleeping far away!
I hope you have a great time withh manfriend - 1 or 2 beds.

Mandy_Fish said...

Personally I can't imagine not sleeping in the same bed. I also made the rule that we're not allowed to wear anything clothing in bed. More sex happens this way.

Heidi Post said...

Sleeping with my BF is often impossible. He rubs his feet together, grinds his teeth in my ear, snores sometimes (not loudly at least), decides my pillow (with my head on it) is more desirable than his, steals the covers, (and worse). At least 3 nights a week, I banish him to the guestroom so I can get some decent sleep. It seems you're not alone in this!

LenoreNeverM♡re said...

You're not alone!
Enjoy the gateway...please just don't end up sleeping in the bathtub, 'kay!

fabulousjunk said...

Hmmm.. I'm iffy about this. I mean to get a full rested nights sleep, I prefer my own bed, or an extra large bed if I have to share one. I love just stretching and not be awoken by someone else snoring. ahhhh

beck
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Lara said...

I am so with you on this.
Never slept so bad in my life since bf and I moved in together. I am constantly tired, woken up a million times a night. (cats don't help)
We have a queen size bed and I vow, one of these days to get a king sized memory foam mattress.

Hope you have fun this weekend!

nicole said...

hope you have an amazing trip. thats a tough one on the separate beds, i think as long as the fun stuff happens before shut eye, wgaf where you end up, you'll still have breakfast together right?;)) it's better than no sleep at all!!!

mermaid gallery said...

king size bed...sex....advil night time....zoom

Down and Out Chic said...

b and i share a full bed and it usually isn't a problem unless i'm sick and then i want my own space. problem is we have hard wood floors and our couch is unfit for sleeping. morale of the story? we need to move, invest in a couch and a much bigger bed! i hope it worked out this weekend for you :)

Kitty Stampede said...

hahaha....i think sleeping together for the most part is great. but when snoring is involved....FAHGETABOUTIT. I can't stand snoring. it drives me litereally up the wall...batty, insane. i loathe it. i've had to wear earplugs because i like snuggling in bed, but if there is snoring involved i get really pissy and kick and stuff.

one time i was sleeping in a hotel room and my mom was snoring like a demon most of the night. at one point i got so mad, i smoked a water bottle at her head. no joke.

i hope you have a super great weekend. and the bed thing went alright! :D so happy to hear you are having tons o fun with manfriend! yay!

bananas. said...

i love your little quirks...wish we were neighbors or coworkers or something so i could hear about them every day!

btw my grandparents slept in separate beds in separate rooms, each decorated in their own separate way...

but they were old people so what's your excuse?

bahahahaha i'm totally teasing. hope you had fun during your weekend getaway!

Isabel said...

i always find that it takes awhile to get used to it and then its kind of second nature.

kimbirdy said...

separate beds? try separate apartments! i lived alone for 10 years before getting hitched with my partner and as much as i love him, i really miss having my own place. i know an older married couple who have separate homes and it works really well for them. a lot of people are horrified by this, but it's really only because of our culture that we think married people NEED to live together. if you can afford it, why not?!

Jen: Sunsets and Swimming Pools said...

I could NEVER sleep with a new boyfriend. I was always scared I might fart or drool or just look ugly sleeping! I swear it was crazy. I could NEVER go #2 with a new boy either. On a vacation once I used the excuse that I wanted to take pictures of the sunrise just so I could sneak out of our hotel room and go to the bathroom downstairs at the coffee shop!! Is that ridiculous or WHAT?

tulpen said...

I love the idea of separate beds! When hubs and I discuss what we'll do with our lottery winnings, cause it's so gonna happen, our fantasy mansion gives us separate bedrooms!! Swoon.

Caroline said...

Ohhh...it will be fine I am sure! Hope you had/have a great trip. La Jolla is beautiful!!!