Thursday, December 27, 2012

Thanks, but....

bad santa

Have you ever received an ungrateful response for a gift that you gave? My grandma used to open up Christmas gifts and say things like, "Well that is different" and "A for effort".  HA! All in all, not the response one really hopes for, but not TOO bad.

When times are good at work, we tend to send gifts to select clients and vendors.  My boss wanted to give a gift to a paper conservator that we use -- a woman that struggles financially.  I figured a gift card to Whole Foods (a nice grocery store) for $300 would do the trick. Upon receiving the gift, the paper conservator called and said something like this to me, "Thank you very much for your kind and generous gift, but in the future it would be greatly appreciated if you could give me a gift card to a more reasonably priced grocery store -- one like Trader Joe's."  !!!!!!!!!!!  I listened to the thank you+complaint combo and stopped short of telling her that in the FUTURE it would be much appreciated if she brought us a REAL DESSERT instead of the tasteless waste-of-calories pound cake she dropped off every year.  CRIPES!  If you don't like a gift, can't you just keep your yap shut?!?!?!? 

One more ridiculous holiday gift story...my sister-in-law has worked at Starbucks for years.  My oldest sister gave her a gift bag of STARBUCKS PRODUCTS for Christmas.  !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

32 comments:

Cheryl Ann said...

hahahahahaha! what a bitch response! also, is it bad/super cheap of me to have gone, "UM, Trader Joe's is NOT inexpensive!" ?? HEB is a main grocery store in TX and is waaaay less expensive than TJ's. although, i did go a bit nuts when they opened a Trader Joe's near my house...

my gma is a rude responder to gifts. she blames her english - "it's not very good! my japanese is better!" but i just give her the side-eye and tell her to come up with a different excuse b/c she's lived in the US for 50 years now...your english is great, girlfriend.

hope you had a merry christmas!!

Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell said...

I can't believe she said that! Ungrateful is right!

Kianwi said...

Are you kidding me? Do you know how excited I would have been about that giftcard? Yeah, it's a more expensive store, but I would have looked at it as a great opportunity to shop somewhere I normally have a hard time affording! What a rude weirdo.

What did you SIL say to the Starbucks gift basket? That's pretty funny :)

Lorena said...

What an ungrateful B!
Seriously, nobody is obliged to give you a gift and she reacts like that !? I'd get her a 200.00 card at Whole Foods next year. If anything.

Phoenix said...

The best revenge on unhappy people is letting them live their miserable lives. Can you imagine how unhappy a person must be to look at a $300 gift card (to anywhere, really) and be so miserable in your own life that you can't even express gratitude? What a piece of work that woman is... next year you should give her a $5 coupon to McDonald's.

sporkgasm said...

I'm like Kianwi. I don't shop at Whole Foods 'cause it's too spendy so if I got that card I'd be like, "Yee hootie! I get to go to Whole Foods."

The Starbucks thing kills me. I don't care about cheap gifts, but thoughtless gifts really chap my tushy. I should've put that in that post. haha

krista said...

sigh. i have to wonder what sense of entitlement people live with when they think that any kind of gift needs to be critiqued. or how blinded they must be when their gratitude is shrouded in disappointment. (although your sister totally does not get a pass for the starbucks nonsense. unless she is just a horrible gift-giver in general. cause we all have those in our lives, yes?)

and wait..you give some of your VENDORS nice gifts? that is fantastic.

Kana said...

Lat year, my Mom got stuck in a brain loop and after the wrapping paper settled, I had 23 different packs of socks. I'm not kidding, 23. Boring plain ones, too! Smiled and thanked her like A Boss. Gotta give back to your giver with your gratitude!

Megan said...

People are so ungrateful...

$300 if super carefully used at Whole Foods could be budgeted for one month of groceries or 15 lunches or dinners throughout the year. That's $300 more than this person started out with. Whole Foods does carry a generic line as well which I've purchased from to save money on my grocery spending at times. Besides, the Whole Foods gift card is such a nice gesture...if I were this person, I'd save it for those times when finances were super tight and use it as a treat.

This year for xmas, I sent my in-laws in Britain a case of wine. I tried to choose the better of the two UK wine companies I found online as there isn't the expansive selection I can choose from in the US. I told my husband that we'd hear their opinion if they didn't approve. Sure enough, his father found the first wine he'd tried to be too dry. Eye roll... A simple thank you without the criticism would be appreciated.

I like to give generous and thoughtful gifts personally. However, if I receive a gift that leaves me thinking WTF or that I'm truly unhappy with, I still thank the person for thinking of me and move on. Why be a douchebag?



MarlaD said...

As soon as you said "Whole Foods" I knew exactly what was coming. What an ungrateful bitch! Kianwi and sporkgasm have what should be anyone's reaction to the gift card. A little story - on my last vacation, friends pet sat for me for a week. They can't afford to shop at Whole Foods very often, and I gave them a $100 gift card as a thank you. Their reaction was pure excitement...no thought of saying, uh, if this was a Vons card we could have gotten twice the stuff. They went and bought a couple of organic grass fed steaks, a nice bottle of wine and some Point Reyes Blue...and texted me a pic of their dinner with the comment "Yippee! Whole Foods dinner, thank you!!" These people are happy and get a kick out of life, which your vendor never will. Too bad when she made that comment you couldn't have said, huh? Let me see that and took the card out of her hand and said, oh yeah, this was a mistake, and handed her a $5 McDonald's card. Any of us would have used that card to get goodies we usually don't get but instead, she will get no pleasure out of it at all and will go on being miserable.

Maegan Tintari said...

OMFG are you serious!?!??!?! How miserable of her!



ummmm, and amazing about the starbucks. ahahahah I wish I was there to see the look on her face. ahahhaah.

Maegan Tintari said...

and also, Trader Joe's and Whole Foods are in the same category of ridiculously expensive food products. omg.

Dancing Branflake said...

Are you for real?!!!!! Oh my gosh. tool city.

Shelley said...

that is awful! I'm with the person who said to give her another for whole foods next year ;)

I got really good at my present face beacuse my great grandma used to give me things like chia heads and sweaters with pandas on them...

Claire Kiefer said...

I am infuriated on your behalf. I cannot BELIEVE that woman requested a gc to a different store--that is AWFUL! And as for Starbucks, um? What on earth was your sis thinking? People (including our own family members) are bizarre.

Miss Caitlin S. said...

yeah, wow- that is crazy. I mean, I know that 300 gets you farther at Trader Joe's than Whole Foods but I would never, ever, ever complain after being given a 300 buck gift card to it. That is crazy. I guess at times like that, you just have, have, have to assume they're having a rough week... at least thinking that makes me feel better.

And Grandparents can say anything. It's either really wise and deep or if it's a little off-kilter, it's just an old person being funny.

bananas. said...

i have to be honest...i'd be visibly PISSED if someone gave me a gift bag of starbucks products and i don't work at starbucks!

but that's just me.

the whole foods hater can keep her ungrateful ass at trader joe's surrounded by free cheese samples. i'm happy to take that $300 gift card off her hands. have her call me.

cerebral e said...

Next year donate $300 to Oxfam on her behalf. She'll probably be really pissed off. Win-win.

cerebral e said...

PS so glad we don't have Starbucks here

PPS how good is Bad Santa? I have an annual Bad Santa video night at my place the week before Christmas. I never get tired of that film. Assclown.

girlunwinding said...

O you make me laugh with you "stupid people" stories! ah-hahahahaha

fabulousjunk said...

OMG... I am rolling my eyes right now just thinking about that comment. Jesus christ, some people really have some nerve you know? What ever happened to its the thought that counts? Be grateful for what you have? God, sometimes I swear I can't get through a day without hearing at least 5 people bitch about the most mundane things... fuck man

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Lara said...

What a piece of work! That was such a generous gift! I would've been doing back flips!

Gifts should be something the person wouldn't normally get for themselves... a treat!
She could've treated the hell out of herself with little indulgences for months!

WendyB said...

I hate people!

Trissta {Living on the Chic} said...

My momma raised me to be grateful for ANYTHING we received as a present of any kind. If you don't like it be discrete about it. LMAO. I give her props for having the guts to say that though. SMH. People kinda stink.

Much Love,
Trissta

Anonymous said...

Sorry! Gift cards suck.

Kristine said...

What an ingrate! I am shocked by the thoughtlessness of the Starbucks gift. My grandmother used to open up her gifts smoking a cigarette and scowling and then mutter,"Why'd you get me this shit?" Oh the joys of family at Christmas.

diane said...

Don't give her anything next year, that'll shut her up.
Hope you had a great Christmas holiday Drolly. Ours has been simply wonderful.
A bushel and a peck, xo d

SabinePsynopsis said...

Sometimes we bitch a bit about certain pressis afterwards... but into the givers face - Never! The Starbucks thing is painfully hilarious. Happy new year, J!

Emily said...

Oh. My. Gosh. That is brutal. People are such assholes sometimes. That story is hard to stomach, as is that cake, I'm sure.

May the force be with you.
Emily

drollgirl said...

anonymous comments suck, ya big chickenshit.

Kathryn said...

The f'ers have bad manners and are rude mother f'ers. People that can afford whatever they want will never appreciate it any present you give to them.

While I may not be the classiest chick, I have always taught my son to always be appreciative of ANY gift, no matter how large or small as it showed that they thought enough about you to give a gift and never, ever, under any circumstances complain. If you don't think they won't, give a donation to a worthy cause in their name.

I have worked for rude (overpaid) jerks in the past that have exclaimed their disappointment and asked me to return an item.

I complied but in return I have made a donation to a charity that they support or just gave to whatever charity I felt deserved and never heard another peep out of them and even thanked for my generosity and forsight; they just thanked me for naming them for the donation (so they can brag that they are philanthropic).

That way you meet your obligation and give money to people that might really appreciate it instead of wasting your time and whining.

Good generic causes are always American Red Cross or American Cancer Society:)

Alisa said...

My sister's husband sent a gift to his dad and step-mom, they live across the country. They sent it back with a note that said "Not quite right"