I can't get into specifics here, but big trouble has bubbled up (hell, it has boiled over) with the boyfriend and a couple of his family members.
I THINK I have all of the facts, but I can't be certain. But from what I know, two turds in his family have wreaked havoc on my boyfriend and his kids, and the whole focacta situation makes my blood boil.
I have blabbed and yelled and cursed my thoughts to the boyfriend. And I have decided to bail on some holiday plans that involve
his mother Turd A and one of his sisters Turd B. I just don't want to be around them. I considered confronting them, but they are not MY family members, and I know it would make things worse. I am going to leave it to my boyfriend to work things out with those *&^$%@!&!# $%*@#$%!^&*!, if/when he is ready. I'll be on the sidelines giving him my perspective and my support, but I don't think it would be wise to tear new ones for those two twits, even though I think they certainly deserve it.
I think I am pretty much an avoider most of the time -- I just don't want to deal with conflict if I can help it. But if/when it crops up and it is unavoidable, it gets ugly. Real ugly. I guess I am trying to avoid putting myself into a potentially explosive situation that really wouldn't be helpful for anyone, and that I'd end up having to apologize for some day. Bleh. No thanks. Sometimes time and distance are helpful. Or maybe that is just me being a wuss.
How do you handle these types of situations?
P.S. On a cheerier note, now I have a couple less Christmas gifts to buy. ;)